When I talk about this, I need to talk about who Ezekiel is as a person. He does not primarily gravitate toward the masculine. 9 times out of 10 he prefers the feminine, whatever that looks like. That means nothing right now, except that he is a kid.
He emanates this calm, sweet energy and he’s just a delight. It has nothing to do with sex or gender.
Body autonomy. sex education 101. Your body is YOURS. You can cover it with whatever you see fit, you are empowered to make decisions about your own body, always. You are the captain of your ship, if you want pink ruffle sails, that is your right as a human being on earth.
Being asked if he is a girl is not and will never be this huge devastating thing. Telling him that he is unable to do with ANYTHING because he doesn’t have the genitalia to do so is not going to happen. Making him question his likes by saying “that’s for girls” which apparently is “bad”, isn’t something I am willing to do.
We do not exist to perpetuate societies dysfunction. I am not the parent I thought I would be. I thought I would raise these little mini mes and they would do whatever I told them….then I met Ezekiel. He’s always known exactly what he wants and likes and he has changed everything I thought was true about parenthood.
It’s my job to ensure that he is confident in himself, that his opinion matters, that it’s okay for him to trust himself. In doing that, he will be ready for the questions, he can take someone being unloving toward him and instead of it breaking him, he can see that they need love, too.
We don’t get up every day thinking “what outfit will get us the most looks” or “what outfit will change the world? ‘”
I’m just a mom of a three year old that is empowered to make choices. If that causes questions, then let’s figure out why.
Why does it matter what anyone chooses to wear? If it’s simply because “He’s too young to make that decision.” Or that I’m doing it for me….then you haven’t met Ezekiel.
Feel free to ask questions, I will have answers.